Quote: Um, now IF you were still DBing, I WOULD say that, well, it never really was about the A and now you are getting to the real underlying issues in your marriage. Without getting to those issues, and finding a way to resolve them, you would never have had a complete, healthy marriage again.
Your absolutely right, the affair was just a bandaid. He still continues this morning to say that he is willing to talk to someone. My fear is not finding a solution based therapist. I feel he needs to work past this and get to the real reason he feels this way. Lots of people do stupid things in their life, but if they have changed how can you continue to hold that against them? Of course I regret lots of things and I have to live with myself everyday. I have apologized for the things I have done in my past and told him that I hope someday he can forgive me and accept me for who I am today. I don't know anymore.
