Ok, been off the board for a few days. Went to my parents over the weekend. My B and SIL and their baby were also there. Had a good time. I thought everyone treated my H very well. Talked a little with my B, he said I really need to back off and give my H space. This being from a man's point of view. Again, this is very hard for me as I have zero patience.
Kids were all sleeping on the 3 hour drive home so we did have a R talk (I initiated, of course). H feels like he lost that loving feeling and doesn't know if or how to get it back. Said we never did things as a couple and if we did all we talked about were the kids. We agreed that we both enjoy bowling and talked about joining a league. We did take the kids bowling last night and had a really fun time. H suggested that we do this more often.
After we got home and I put the kids to bed and we were watching TV H asked me to stand up. Then he stood up and gave me a huge hug and thanked me for everything. I couldn't believe it. Wow did it feel good! Baby steps
