NM, It's just the kick in the butt I need. I also hope that others can benefit from OT's advice as well.
Everyone here has been so supportive, I don't know what I would have done if I didn't find this board. OT seems to be very objective and tells it like it is, holds nothing back. I was looking for a different perspective when I asked for her advice, so I sure hope I didn't offend any of my friends here.
I think my H goes out drinking to get away from life. But like OT says, I cannot concern myself too much with his actions right now. He is not acting like a H should. I have continued to act like his wife and I guess I really shouldn't right now. He needs to feel my absense. This will be extremely difficult for me to do. Again, I am considering his feelings. Why? I'll have to think deep about that since obviously he does not consider my feelings. Am I afraid that I will loose him? Yes I am. I am scrambling trying whatever I can. I guess I have to consider that if he chooses to go it is really out of my hands. I don't know
Alot of what I do is out of unconitional love. I guess I need to stop some of that and maybe as they say around here GO DARK.
