OT, you are so wise. I really appreciate your help. I hope some day I will be able to help others on this board too.
Quote: He is an adult, quit parenting him
This is possibly your best advice to me. Several times he has told me that he does not like the condenscending way I sometimes speak to him and the fact that I take care of him like I am his mother. Now, I do not recognize when I am condenscending so I will have to work on that. As far as taking care of him, this is a learned behavior from my childhood. My mother does EVERYTHING for my Dad. As a matter of fact I have always said that if she passes away before him he will probably go within the next few weeks. My mother does EVERYTHING for everyone. She never does anything for herself. I assumed that this was what wifes and mothers do, I didn't know any better. Now while this is perfectly acceptable for my Dad it makes my H feel like a child. He is capable for doing things for himself.
So, it looks like I have some 180's to work on as well as reevaluating my non-M and working on GAL.
Thank you so much. Let me know if I go off track again
