Quote: I think its all about control... they need to feel that they control their own lives and can do what they want when they want without our approval...
EXACTLY what my W said. I just re-read my first post on these boards and I have her quoted as saying just that very thing. In many ways, she has echoed that sentiment in various ways, but it IS a standard feeling, maybe THE standard feeling the WAS has. The trouble is, of course, that in a marriage, one is usually not just "free" to do as they please without considering the spouses feelings. Ah, but that's why they leave, isn't it...or not...
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My advice to you is as hard as it may seem - act as if you are completely fine with OW.... tear your hair out in private. But dont mention OW or R talk... keep of subject and if your H brings up talk of R or OW, listen but just keep calm and try and not comment...
This is a varitation of what I have done. I just ignore the OM stuff as much as possible. I KNOW she KNOWS I hate it, but I don't drill that idea into her head all the time. It seems to have worked somewhat.
