I'm back again looking for answers

[RBinBR]

I do not KNOW anything. I will no longer assume and think the worst. I will make the best of the time we have together.

Mama, you and GH are absolutely right about this. Even though my W is still living with the OM, I'm still treating all the time I get with her as a postive to be treasured. It's made a world of difference. It's turned me into her OM in a way, as she now looks forward to spending time with me and not telling OM about it.

I really, really wanted to ask about the purchase at the Hallmark store but I held my tongue.

Isn't there a chance that he actually bought a card for you and just hasn't given it to you yet? If he did, wouldn't you feel bad if you asked and spoiled the surprise? I would put that purchase out of my mind. It could even have been that someone at his work was sick or something and he bought them a get well card.

we expect it all to come rushing back once the first trickles start to flow.

GH, I've had the same problem. I think that patience is the single biggest thing that you need to DB successfully, and it's the hardest part.

I am not saying to let your guard down

I think this is also very important. Choosing to have a PMA and not obsess does not mean being naive.