Not much time, but I'll offer this. My W and the OM may not be over yet either, but you know what? Sometime after the bombs dropped on me, I found myself thinking, and even asking my W why, if this was not about OM, and all about us, then why was she ONLY working on the relationship with the OM. It didn't seem fair that she gives HIM the chance and not me. Well, I am finally getting the chance and I remember thinking that if that ever happened, I would just take it for what it's worth, live the days as the come and see what happens. Remember, these people walked away, and for them to be back in ANY way is a positive. Of course, it's eventually going to be on THEM to win our trust back, but in the meantime, we can see what is possible with what they give us and when it's time that we need to demand more, then maybe they will be ready to give it. So, maybe, if you can handle it, don't fret about these things you see. You DON'T know what they are or what they mean. You suspect, but you don't KNOW. Rest your mind, protect your heart best you can, and just live with an open mind. You never know, the A may not be over today, but tomorrow is another day. Give things a chance, a real chance until you just can't anymore, then go one more day before you give in.
