LOL - I like to call it the Cheater's Diet - all you eat is bullshit and lies for months & months! And, you never retain water because you're always crying! Bad joke, I know.
But seriously, it took Oldtimer to point out to me that I was like a dog begging for scraps of a Relationship with my SO. That thought simply disgusted me enough to change myself immediately. No more pity parties for me. (Or at least not as often or as long!!! ).
IMO, it's pride that is the biggest roadblock in our DB efforts. We have to let that pride go. It's the hardest thing for me to do, as well.
I have some other links that I want to post, although I'm having difficulties with the search on here. So, I'll post them as soon as I find them. I've printed them out and they cotnain some excellent advice and put things into words better than I ever can!
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