Quote: Here's a trick I've been using lately to help me improve my mood. I think of my SO as someone I want to date.
I do this too. It helps remove the expectations you may have. I really helps me get back to the point where I just did things for my W because I knew SHE would appreciate it or more importantly, because I WANTED TO and not because I thought I would get something out of it. Of course, I don't want to go around doing things just because I think SHE'LL like it because that is opposite of DB, GAL and detachment, but WHEN I do something for her, I can do it out of my independant love and not because I expect it to result in something else. Does that make sense? I am choosing what to do based on my expression of love/whatever NOT because my W expects me to do it, or I expect her to react a certain way. It gives me a sense that I am making decisions and not reacting. Hope that helps.
