Hi, I've been off the board for awhile, not because things have improved but because I couldn't keep dwelling on all of the heartbreak here. My H has been having an affair since last September. He swears that it is over but I know that it is not. (Found a receipt in his car over the weekend for a Hallmark card and a mobil phone card (obviously, he figured out I can check is cell phone so he must have a prepaid phone hidden at work). We have talked about divorce and he states he does not want one. Says his kids mean everything to him, can't we just continue living as friends. He does not want to try to work on or fix our relationship. Well, the only reason I would think that he doesn't want to do that is because he is in love with someone else. I know that I can live without hugs, kisses or intimacy because I have been doing it now for over 5 months, even though it really sucks, and I haven't rolled over and died from it yet. The DR book states affairs usually last around 6 months although I can't see it ending since they work together and are therefore with eachother everyday.
My question is, can anyone give some advice on how I can convince this man that he is detroying his family (we have 3 small children) and how to get him to realize that he needs to work on his marriage
