Yes you are a mon-o-steel (sorry, been around Rastafarians too much lately). You are trying everything to make it work with a woman with whom most people would have found a way to extricate themselves from a long time ago. If it does happen that you two S/D, you will have that mental security that comes from knowing you tried everything.
Ditto on the great revelations too. Good work.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"