RE ZB
I told her that the girls are not to have anything to do with the dogs – they’re W’s dogs and W’s responsibility Imporant step. I had to do something like that with BB's dogs. I was playing the dog's dorman every 30 minuets, which I came to resent. Now I ignore the doorman's position most times. If I am near the door or BB is truely buys, I let the dogs in/out.
Life is better, try it (they’re W’s dogs), stick with it ZB.
ZB said “I don’t want you to leave.” Mistake Me thinks. I can see this biting you ZB. Making many future problems/things your fault.
A modified version might be,
I want you to stay but we have to have a workable solution that works for the whole family. I don't see that happening. If you want to leave, that is up to you. I know I can't make anyone do anything.
she was going to be allowed to take her van Say sure, I don't want you to have to walk anyplace or be in a risky places on foot. I care about you even if you feel different about our relationship.
Then let it go.
Kids first, parents need to be the adults, if one adult can't/won't parent, then what they want does not count for much. If a parent or spouse won't fill the role, they need to tear up their parent/sopuse card untill they can fill the shoes. Doesn't mean we totall abandon them, but they don't get to play roles they can't/wont perform just because their name is on a piece of paper.
