Do not apologize. YOU did nothing wrong. Whatever you have been doing is having a profound effect on the wife and she is raging, struggling, fighting herself. She is trying to redirect the issues. Its gonna be scary, but do not be redirected. YOU know what is reality.
She is dragging you guys into it.
IF she wants to leave that is her choice.
D14 kicking the dog. Just guessing here, but I am sure she hates them becuase of there more importance to Mrs.Zb then you guys.
Its still not acceptable. Let her know. Put the dogs down but dont let them be abused. She is mimicking your W's behavior all ready on externalizing her anger.
I dont thinnk you should do anything about her leaving. In fact my bet says she doesnt. This is a hard boundary that she is running into and she doesnt like it . Shell accept it or she wont. NOT your problem.
Also I would stop saying I dont want you to leave. She can twist that too. Just continue saying that whatever she decides, the dogs are no ones responsiblity except hers.
You can do this. Its a painful process for you and everyone else. You can do it. There is no growth without pain.
once again welcome back VB. (what does you new name mean?)
Oh yeah. Im really really pleased by your progress. It can get better if you can stick to the man o steel.
