John_p Thks for your thoughts...I have been reading the posts you mentioned...and wow, I couldnt relate more! The only difference is that I have gotten past the snooping that was destroying me and truthfully moved onto i can only control "me". I am at peace with this which has enabled me to be more natural at keeping peace and harmony at home. I think this was key on starting the changes which I missed the last time we tried to R. My W did tell she didnt want me to think that the process of D wasnt hurting her because it is. My response was even though I am heartbroken it is happenning and that I respected her wishes. I also said that I am struggling with my feelings between not wanting to put more pressure on her and me acting as if nothing were happening. I didnt want her to get the wrong message. She thanked me for saying so. She also "asked" me if it were ok for her to go on a trip for a change of scenery, she needs a breather. I not only agreed but encouraged her. Am I worried that she will be unfaithful, not really. This doesnt consume me like it did before. I truly believe she needs to get away from all this. Again thanks for your support a good luck!
