Keep reading the posts here, there are many who have been in your same situation. It sounds like you are handling this the best way possible by being accepting and non-confrontational. Check Just_Me's posts for insight on DB'ing during and after separation/divorce. Also see therabbithole's posts for insight on the WAW mindset. You will find this board a tremendous source of support and ideas, but ultimately giving up control is what seems like it is all about.
