After almost 1 year being on shaking ground, my WAW told me 4 weeks ago she would go ahead with D. In desperation I emailed her the WAW article from Michelle to show her that our situation wasnt unique and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. But it back-fired offending her to no end. After that I decided to do a 180 and things at home started to be ok, good even. The tension is gone, I am not a moping mess and we get along and have fun as a family even(going out for dinner w/Kids, attending bdays parties, etc). Then, something curious happened, my wife asked if she can read my Div Bust book, I was shocked since she called Michelle all sorts of names because of the article I sent. She even had some good things to say, I think...she called the approach interesting. During this time I was served with D papers and I have been trying to muster all my strength not to revert to pleading w/her to stay. I have continued my 180 and try to be happy but at the same time I let her know that this is not what I want but i respect her wishes. Yesterday, she asked if she can read Div Remedy book. I am very confused by all this, in the meantime i need to respond to the Div summons. Once the negotiations start there are going to be things that we will not agree and I am afraid this process will kill any chance we have to save our marriage. Any advise?
We have been married for 8 yrs, have 2 boys 5&3 which i know are going to be the real victims of this since I am really involved with them. I love my W dearly and have been a good provider and father. What I wasn't was a good husband since I was to busy working, surviving layoffs, grieving for my father during his lengthy illness and recent death and not communicating or being intimate with her. As she has told me I wasnt fun to be around with.
