Quote: GH...Have you ever brought your W with you on your wedding gigs?
I have tried. I suppose the wedding thing, as my main focus, has been recent enough that her interest in all things grasshopper had faded enough to where she was not interested in doing something like that with me. I have kept trying to get her more involved, but yet again, the spectre of the babysitting comes into play. Don't get me started on that...lol.
Quote: I knew how I felt sitting at home with the kids while he was out....even though I "knew" he was working - sometimes I still perceived that he was out having fun. And just the thought of OK, he's got to work from 3 PM to 10 PM - plus hour drive there, hour drive back, that leaves a long, long period of time to try to fill. It used to depress me. Don't know if that's how your W feels, but even knowing you need the money sometimes doesn't help get you thru the afternoon.
Yes. I think this is precisely how my W feels. What is the solution? I already do a LOT to make sure I schedule things taking into account her feelings and the kids's schedule so I am around as much as possible. Now, this is a recent development so I guess time will help bear the fruit on that...I hope.
I just think it is kinda funny how my W can not seem to exist alone with the kids for more than a couple hours at a time yet when I am there, she has no problem expecting me to happily do the same thing. I TOTALLY understood when it was her stuck at home with one or both of them all day. That is a TOUGH job and I did have sympathy for her, but I guess I never really DID anything about it, i.e. change my schedule. Now, however, she has both of them in school full-time and is NEVER home during the day so...um...well...couldn't one find a way to unwind, relax, have fun (oh, forgot, that's what the OM is for...lol...or not) so that when an evening came along where I had to be out for part or all of it, she would have the energy to just be mom and have fun with the kids? Sure, I have been grilled here before for assuming my W has all this free time in the day to do whatever. Well, she does, point blank, and the fact that she chooses NOT to use her time in a way that improves her life, i.e. get a job, volunteer, go to the spa, whatever, is not something I can understand. I guess that's where we are different. I guess, going back to my earlier statement, she DID do something to "improve" her life. She got a boyfriend.
