Quote: My question to you is -- does giving backrubs and kissing W's neck let you feel like you are open and capable of intimacy while she is not?
Um, well, the obvious answer is yes, but I think it's simply due to me, well, being open to it and she's not for whatever reason. I do not speculate that the reason is realated to her GENERAL openness to intimacy, just her openness to it right now.
I DON'T feel like "well, I'm doing my part and I can't help it if she's not open to this...". I feel that the back rubs are a way to "keep in touch" and I really don't intend the pun, but not a doorway to something else that she's closing every time. Does that make sense.
And, as for me addressing my issues, well, it's pretty much all I can think about right now. I need to turn that into something productive.
