I don't really understand how it puts blame on her other than I guess her feeling like I am always expecting more and she has to be the one to deny it?
With XH, I had a STACK of books on sex that I wanted to read and work with to help improve our SL. He never would. This in my mind made our problem HIS problem because I was open and wanting to work on things while he wasn't. This kept me in my comfort zone and I didn't have to face my own contributions to the problem.
