You weren't big to begin with but I bet you feel great. Toning is what I am working on now too. Has your wife commented on your new look at all? Mine tells me I look better than I have in years, (I guess not good enough to touch yet though...) Don't get down on yourself, this isn't about you. Your wife has to get over the OM and then feel safe again around you. Patience is definitely a virtue. Something I never knew I had until now.
