It sounds like intimacy is not something your W if ready for yet. I know that sucks, but you have lived without it for this long so a little while longer will be ok. Your expectations are aimed too high right now and therefore you are experiencing disappointment when she reacts to you that way. Take a step back and maybe try again in a week. You don't want to appear to be pressuring her when you are on the brink of something good.
Anyway, that's my two cents, (for what it's worth...)
