Quote: I know that your W doesn't initiate, but what about giving if you ask? How would she respond if, for example, you asked her to rub your back?
Ok, here's the thing, and I posted about this awhile back, but it'll do some good to restate it again, for my sake and yours.
My W WILL do for me if I ask, but in the past I was TOTALLY uncomfortable with receiving. I would ask her to do something, say a back rub, and 20 seconds into it, tell her she could stop. I just have a terrible time with that. I think I would be ok now since my self esteem is so much higher (I know I deserve that now) and I am also taking care of myself and my happiness. So, really, her giving is relatively uncharted territory for us and I have no idea how it will go, but I am surely going to ask her. Again, call it shallow, whatever, but now that I'm in shape and getting better by the day, she will likely have much less trouble touching me than before...if ever SHE did have a problem. I suspect it was all me on this one. She really is a generous person when you are willing and able to receive.
