RB, you brought up a good point with your last post. My W has never really been one to "give" in intimacy. From her idea that it's incumbent on the man to initiate things to her just plain liking to receive and being slow to give, that's just how it's been. Add to that my being a giver and, well, here we are. I have always chalked it up to her being somewhat reserved when it came to these things, but then on the other hand...well, she's not that reserved...lol.

What you made me think of, and this is for the honest ladies out there, and you know who you are ; how much might me not being in shape really for our entire marriage (I was in GREAT shape before we got married) have contributed to her not really seeming to want to touch me? Once again, in the bedroom things were ok, but still mostly me touching her.
In an answer to my own question and to get a little more graphic and personal, the one time in our M when I made an effort, lost some weight and started working out, she made comments how nice it was to touch me then...gee...I wonder...lol...

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