Quote: If your W is aching for some heat and passion in her life, then she may cringe when you touch her without it.
I think this used to happen long before this crisis. I really believe my way of casually, sans passion, approaching our ML and intimacy in general really put her off. I think she suffered through it because once we got to the point where I knew ML would happen, it got more passionate, but I'm sure it was a large part of what killed things for us. It's probably a bad thing that she feels my passion is not so much for her, but for ML in general.
SO, that brings be to now, and the quandary you so wonderfully illustrated for me. How do I know if she IS ready to be "touched" and wishes I would be more passionate, or if she's just not ready, as she's indicated recently, and I need to back off. Do I further damage the situation by NOT being passionate, something I think despite all my issues, I will NOT have a problem with when we resume our normal lives (such as they will be)? Or, do I damage things further by pushing too soon and not heeding her words that she's just not ready?
Add to all that the fact that she KNOWS I want $ex right now and probably guesses that ANY physical contact by me is designed with that in mind. She has no idea I want more than that (or less than that as it is) and that's where my desire to just talk to her comes in. I feel that if she knows I am not all about the $ex, then maybe she'll see my actions backing that up.
It's a tough spot to be in, but I guess a good problem to have overall. At least I have the opportunity to make a choice, meaning that my W is at least receptive to me at all now.
