Quote: GH, I think you can definitely be more romantic and proactive right now.
I think so too, but considering that even before this, we/I were not that romantic, it's somewhat daunting a task to undertake. As I have addressed before here, the babysitting thing is a sticking point in our M. I always want to get one, have arranged for one in the past and my W protested to the point were we just didn't go. The fact is that she's a control freak when it comes to the kids/childcare, and she's never really been comfortable with the idea of babysitting. I think she's getting over it, but even recently when I said I was going to get one, she resisted. Now sure, I could apply the do or not do principal to this, but she seems to feel strongly about it so I don't think it's simply a matter of me taking initiative. Also, she's the one that knows and has contact with the only babysitter we have ever used and for some reason, fails to actually use her despite saying how great she was. I am at a loss sometimes, I really am. I can't help thinking that she just doesn't want to go out with me...or at least the "old" me...lol. We WILL address this problem sooner or later and in the meantime, the way I have found around it is I bought tickets to a concert for a band she likes so we have one "date" planned this month. I am going to do more of that, and just let her figure out how to deal with the kids. She seems ok with that because we COULD get our parents or her sister to do it with enough notice. I think she is happy to have me planning things so in one respect, I suppose I am already doing as you advised. I just want to get to a point where we can get a sitter and just go out to dinner without any big event to go to.
As for general romance, I am working on it, I really am but I just don't want to go too far too soon, and that's MY feeling, not one based on hers.
