Maybe, just maybe, could this be what she was trying to do in Ireland?????
Thanks OT. Maybe it is what she was trying to do. However, am I wrong in thinking ESPECIALLY with what's been going on that she should just tell me what she's doing instead of leaving it vague? Actually, I am beginning to realize that I am wrong because I am assuming SHE would think that I THINK all these paranoid things and thus be compelled to belay me those fears. For all I know, she somehow thinks I am not thinking these things. For my part, I guess I have not communicated my paranoia to any extent (for very good reason) so who knows. Anyway, it's not up to her to stop my paranoia, it's up to me. It's only up to her to make her choices and me to recognized them I guess.
Quote: Being direct and asking whether the new ring "is about us?" seems to have worked
Thanks. By makeing this next point, I'm not trying to make a negative from a positive, just trying to be honest. I didn't really have time to be indirect. Trust me, I tired to think of an indirect, passive/agressive way to do it but couldn't do it under pressure! Anyway, yes, indeed, the direct approach seemed to do the trick. Thanks for that. I really have never stopped thinking about that change I want to make in myself since you pointed out how indirect and P/A I usually am.
I see you have some good news, so I'm here to pat you on the back (claws removed) And smirk, yeah. Everyday ring, well I never.
Sorry can't offer any input now, I'm too emotional. You know why? Because as it suddenly hit me, I've just done my first true 180, and I don't give a damn.
To get through the darkest period of the night, act as if it is already morning.
The Talmud
Thanks for the well wishing but I think this is going to be my first "huh" on this board. What did the rest of that mean FD? What was your 180? What are you emotional about?
From what I see, your W is not a stupid woman, and I might be wrong but it seems to me that you somehow revealed something about the bear, or smell, or something. Therefore she knows that you know (something). Therefore for her to leave certain objects where you might find them (let's assume you're not devoid of olfaction) and figure something out, is in some passive-aggressive way not such a coincidence. You know what I'm saying? Maybe you've been detaching so successfully and really got her thinking, that she presses the familiar buttons to get you all revved up again. Just a thought, anyway. Maybe it's pleasant for her to see how much you care and how scared you get. It's a form of flatery, true. Just maybe.
If that happen to contain a grain of truth, DO NOT REACT. Let her try harder, anyway
To get through the darkest period of the night, act as if it is already morning.
The Talmud
