Quote: Now how do you take someone who has always had communication issues and convince them that communication is the key in building a healthy relationship?
Ah, and that would be key, would it not? That brings up my question earlier about wether our W's really weren't verbal communicators, or that they just weren't with US. If the later is true, then what would need to happen is for them to feel "safe" or at least comfortable being honest and open with us. I know in my case, that will take a lot because I have done a TERRIBLE job, even of late, in validating and not judging my W. What makes me think she is going to open up if she percieves me standing there with a knife ready to stab her as soon as her guard drops? Anyway, like we've been told, too much focus on that, and not enough on us. Shift...
