Quote: In his sitch, his W says she WANT'S to make things better and is commited to makeing their M work so in his case, I don't think it's too bad for him to examine the communication issues.
Okay, here is something I am learning as this goes along. The OM is not completely out of the picture....they still work together, so until that dynamic changes, she will always have that dynamic. Now, that being said, she has given up spending time outside of work with him and has committed to working on the M. And yes, I have seen positives, and yes, I do have very little patience. Okay, back to the point, the point being, even though she has committed to working on the M, doesn't mean she still doesn't have feelings for the OM and this is really the stumbling block. Just because she has decidied to work on the M doesn't mean her feelings for him disappeared overnight. So IMO right now ISN'T a good time to work on communications issues because she's just dipping her toes back into the M. Trying to change anything at this point will upset the balance. The feelings she has for him must end of their own accord before she can be expected to put her full energy into the M. This is where piecing comes into play and maybe i need to start perusing that thread.
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