I have asked, and she always just bows to whatever is best for me. Most of the time she is ok with it. The problem is that my photography gigs are the ones that cut into family/her time and once booked, I cannot back out so if the day/night comes and she is in a mood, or a state where she wants me around and doesn't want me to go, there is not much I can do about it without just abandoning my career. Bailing out on a wedding at the last minute is a sure way to not be a wedding photographer anymore. To be fair, the conflict has never really been about that though because it is a fairly new situation, and it pays pretty well. It has been more about my sports photography and as I have admitted here before, I did abuse the situation and was gone more than I should have. That has been fixed but maybe too little too late. My day job schedule is not really an issue. I have offered to move my shift so I can help out with the kids in the morning, but she says she doesn't need me to do that, or even want me to because then I would be home later in the afternoon and that would be worse. SO, long winded answer. The short one is yes, I have asked her, and I have altered my schedule and it still seems to be an issue sometimes.
