SE,

From our previous discussions I knew your motivation. I just wasn't certain that H was as excited about the move.

I don't really believe in the change for the sake of change.

However it does sound as if you are both in agreement that the move will be good for the family. It's just how to reach that goal that is creating a little conflict.

And again, it's not the conflict or the difference of opinions or any of that, that is causing your current drama. It's the explosive out of control anger that has everyone upset. H has got to rein that in. It's OK to be angry, you can disagree without being disagreeable.

The trick now is to help him understand how much the outbursts hurt everything you're both working toward.
I've not completly accomplished it yet either. It aint easy.

Good Luck today. Hope the realtor gives you some good feedback.

C4H