I think most S would get defensive at that response Cobra, no?
I agree. But sometimes, at least in my sitch, that is just what is called for. For me, being too subtle just goes whizzing right past her. Then I end up falling into that trap Corri is talking about where you compromise your own boundaries. Hopefully, as we both become more aware, a less direct approach will suffice. It is a fine line and I guess it depends on the person and the sitch.
