Quote: "If I am feeling healthy, happy and in love with you, I will want to have sex with you on a regular basis. Which of these factors would you prefer that I minimize in order to limit my sexual feelings?".
Of course, as you may or may not know, W has, more than once, said to me that I should look into testosterone-lowering medication to limit my "urges."
Karen: it's hard to be in this situation. It causes so much emotional damage, and it seems to me that it is a rare case where the spouse finally "gets it." At least in my limited experience, which is pretty much within the confines of the ssm board population for the past couple of years. Mojo has such good advice, and her words, especially her suggested "comebacks" to our spouses, seem almost infallible. In practice, though, it's really all about whether the spouse is willing to see your needs as valid, and to make an effort to step outside their comfort zone in order to show their love for you in the way you desire it to be shown.
