Two Harpoons and a Guinness

[MJontheMend]

I definitely value your input, you just seem to over analyze my sitch....more than I do LOL.

I over-analyze everything! I think I'm probably really a Type 5 who just acts like a Type 7 when she wants to get laid. The reason why it might seem like I'm honing in on your sich more than some others on the BB is due to the fact that you are actually such a good communicator that I feel like your "story" is easier to follow and therefore easier to analyze. Though I really am wondering why there seems to be a sort of bad relationship "burden of proof" rule for LD behavior that is followed by most people on this BB. I'll pick on Karen instead of you. It was perfectly understandable that she was LD in her last marriage because her ex was drug-addled and abusive, but it's not okay for her current husband to be LD in their relationship because she is a wonderful sexy woman who just happens to have a high sex drive. What I am trying to suggest or figure out for myself is how to get around this hopeless "burden of proof" HD said/LD said black hole. My vague theory is that there are certain behaviors that are LD and certain behaviors that are HD that should be unacceptable in any relationship, no matter how bad you subjectively feel the relationship to be. If you feel like the relationship is so bad that you can't keep yourself from behaving in these ways, then whether you are HD or LD YOU need to get help or YOU need to get out of the relationship. For instance, if you are a LD spouse who is being rude when your HD spouse makes a request for sex or if you are a HD spouse who continues to touch your spouse who clearly expressed their desire not to be touched then you need to stop these behaviors for the same reason someone who physically abuses their spouse needs to stop their behavior.