Quote: In sales, as a sales manager I teach my sellers to not take rejection personally. The self-talk is supposed to be "They are not rejecting ME, they are only rejecting my PRODUCT/SERVICE."
Well, in my marriage, and in the bedroom, the product IS me. And the rejection is personal, it is deep, and it hurts.
I think what you have to consider if both the soft sell and the hard sell don't work is that the customer might just not have any money or at least feels like she doesn't have any money. I think it is natural to take sexual rejection personally but I also think it is counter-productive. How do you sell somebody something if they feel like they don't have the money to afford it? Either you have to extend them some credit (probably not advisable except in a minor way)or convince them that they better dig in the couch cushions for pennies and take a second job because what you're selling is a serious necessity.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
