"Its not you.. it's me"... that is one of the most often heard phrases in my household. For years... I didn't buy it. In my mind, the reason she was so antagonistic towards intamacy was because I sucked at it. I wasn't a good lover. After all, if I was any good, how couldn't she want that?!" So I kept trying to focus on improving myself, even though I really couldn't "practice" anything..
But lately, I have come to grips with the fact that she is speaking truth. I don't understand what is going on in her, and until she comes to grips with it, things will continue on as they have been. I am working to do everything I can to understand this.. I am going to counseling, I am seeking advice from others... I am actively working on solutions. My wife refuses any kind of counseling and will not discuss her issues with anyone, family friends, no one. She is trying to internalize everything and it is slowly destroying her. So, since I am doing everything I can to solve this, and she is taking a differnt path.. the only way there will be a solution is when it is within her.
Oh and while we are quoting Shakespear.. my favorite line (and most applicable to my life) is "Hell hath no greater furry than a woman scorned"
