Stig, I agree whith everything you wrote, and it sounds like a great plan... in writing. I have actually tried all of what you suggested. When snuggling up behind her, I can expect to get that elbow pushing me back off. When I keep trying, then I have a very angry wife yelling at me for the fact that she said "no" and I continued to push. And if I act light hearted about the rejection, then I am "not taking her feelings seriously" and "disrespecting her as a woman".
But, you may be right.. if I did all of those things, I may also get sex.... sex, not intimacy with a woman going "I can see that you are going to continue to bug me until I just give in and let you do it. So... get it over with. And now, you have gotten me to the point where I am PI$$ED off, and if you don't do it.. you're really going to be hating life. so do it. do it now and get it over with quickly".
I hate that. It creeps me out. I feel like a terrible person when that happens and it is soooooo not what I am looking for while trying to re-establish an EC. It is far easier to go without and keep some peace than to try to initiate and feel like a creep.
