To put it in a nutshell, I think if you were honest with yourself and your wife you would tell her "I can't be in love with a woman who does not want to have a sexual relationship with me without being miserable, therefore I am no longer in love with you. However, I have been and may remain willing to be a loving companion to you while we raise our children together. I can't predict what I may choose to do as the children get older or if the void in our relationship leads to me falling in love with someone else, but I will do my best to treat you with respect and honesty because I won't be able to respect myself if I don't.".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
