I’m sensing some similarities to my sitch. I’ve not bothered to read trough your previous threads, but let me ask you this – you say your wife does a lot of work with the kids, volunteering at school and such. Do you have the impression she gets a lot of her positive feedback, sense of fulfillment and gratification through the kids and the work she does at school? I’m thinking she has to, since by what you say, she is not getting it from you. How much do you help out around the house and with the kid’s schoolwork? Does she have any resentment toward you about this?
You mentioned that before you got married, she used to “hang” on you. I assume she has a certain emotional need that you met at the time. Did she seem to need emotional security, comfort? Does she have any fears of abandonment? I suspect she may since you say she is bothered if you don’t tell her you love her at the end of your phone calls.
