LustyMama, LOL I can see that I am being clear as mud again.
I do NOT mean to say that GF fireworks aint happenin. In fact, it pisses me off when people say that to me. All I'm saying is that, right now, in Chrome's life, it aint happening. That's due to both him and her. Looking at the GF fireworks is going to cause him undue pain so I was encouraging him to avert his gaze and keep his eyes on the prize. In other words, insist on their time together, do things that will strengthen their bond, keep on initiating, don't accept no affection as a legitimate way to operate within their R, etc blah blah, but getting depressed over lackafireworks will filter out of him and his wife will sense that she's not enough and bam, he's taken a step back.
You want my opinion? I think it's cruddy to not ML after having been gone on a trip. I don't consider that fireworks, I consider it just taking care of your M.
But, if he's really talking about wanting GF fireworks, all I'm saying is that it is a hard period of life to try and have that on a regular basis. Every once in a while H and I pull off some smokin hot fireworks but mostly we just manage to be together, in both a sex and QT sense of the word.
So I was encouraging Chrome to set smallish goals and ACHIEVE them, rather than focusing on the grand finale and getting down about his inability to pull it off at this stage of the game.
