GEL I REALLY appreciate your attempt to help me sort this out. But as I read through your post I just keep saying, but, but, but. For instance, BUT your H is really HD. He is open to expressing himself sexually, maybe even kinky, he just needed to get comfortable doing that with you. The more time that goes on with H, the more I feel like he really is LD, or simply just not comfortable expressing himself sexually at all. He will do many things (sexually) but never appears comfortable with it. It seems so forced and that turns me off. I have attempted to really let him be who he is.Just as you have with your H. The whole porn incident kick-started a lot of progress for you (sexually). And I wanted the seperation in my M to do something similar but it is apples and oranges. If I let him truly be who he is, then I will NOT be satisfied in this M. And vice versa. If I let myself be truly who I am, he will not be satisfied in the M. So one of us has to change...surrender.
