"It takes years to un-do, just as it took years to do, kwis?"
Yes I do.
"I mean, with little ones underfoot it'll never be fireworks and ML on the spot"
Why not? I mean I guess I can understand because you can never really completely keep your eye off a little one, that would be neglect. But as they get older, do you think it is possible to have an R that is so strong that I could just grab my W, run into the bedroom, close the door, and not care if the kids saw me doing it (not doing IT, but the whole carrying away thing). That is not going the be the way it is all the time, or even most of the time, but can it happen. I have never had fireworks in my marriage, but it seems like it could be possible.
"Keep at it! If it's any consolation, nowadays when I hear my H describe me, he does it in terms of the "new" me. He no longer speaks of the old me; he doesn't remember her, so thoroughly have I replaced the old behaviors. It took a loooong time, tho. Many many times he'd talk of what I'm "like" and I'd get frustrated because he hadn't noticed my changes. Little by little, they sunk into his skull and now it is second nature."
I nod my head with respect. Good job. Sincerely. I hope for the day in which my W sees me fully in a new light, with all the old garbage behind us. Everything worthwhile requires hard work and patience.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
