I think I am just having a touch of Lil-ism, wondering how I can truly validate my own sexuality without my W. Ack, I know. The dancing analogy really hit home for me. I have no problems seeing myself as an attractive person, but that's not quite the same. Boy do I know. But I am glad to hear you see yourself as an attractive person now, instead of just becoming an attractive person. That's progress. its just hard when it seems like validation would be so easy with others. Ironic isn't it. M is a real pain in the azz sometimes. Where's the justice? I know people say that if you start a new relationship you will just recreate all of the same problems. But the difference with me is that I am a new person, almost nothing like I was for most of my marriage. My low self-esteem is pretty much out the door That is good to hear Chrome. You are making amazing progress on yourself and hopefully it will transfer over to the R with your W. Does your W know about your newfound self-esteem? Has she commented on it? Noticed?
