Ahem, ahem. <FL impatiently taps his fingers waiting for that promised update>
Good discussion here. The presence or absence of key words or phrases, especially those previously introduced.
Nurse commented the other day that it hurt to know that I had proposed to XW after ~ 4 mo of dating, but wouldn't say "I love you" to her after dating 10 mo. I didn't use this explanation, but this is what I thought. Do you know Johnny Cash's song "Walk the Line"? His phrase "I keep a close watch on this heart of mine" says it best. Not an emphasis of being a victim, but also to note that one is equally capable of changing feelings and attitudes, and breaking hearts. I can't say it until I'm absolutely sure. It was a very special term for me, and I'll use it when I'm sure it's right to do so. Not before.
I don't know if I'll ever be able to think in the "forever" mode again, tho. That may be gone. It's a tough situation, b/c altho actions speak louder than words, some folks need those words of affirmation (WOA). I need to find my FLL book again ...
