Hey gang! I'm sorry I've been so remiss about posting. The past few weeks have been hectic, to say the least!
This week I am on vacation, so I will try to get caught up. Right now I'm writing a paper that is due tonight.
Everything is still going swimmingly with SO. He's just marvelous and each day we grow stronger together and contribute more and more to the kind of relationship we both really want and enjoy.
On the down side, my daughter and her husband have been having problems recently. Last Sunday, after Tristan's first birthday party, SIL told DD26 that he wanted to move out. She's actually doing very well, under the circumstances. (Yes, this is the couple who was just married 9 short months ago.) I've been coaching her in some DR ways, but have not shared the book with her yet. She's not sure at this point that she wants to save the M. It's an hour by hour and day by day thing (we all know how this goes).
It's wonderful to hear about you and SO. I'm curious why you haven't shared DR with DD26. The first chapter might help her decide if she wants to "save" the M. I'll be praying for the whole family.
Thanks,
Joe
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Quote: I'm curious why you haven't shared DR with DD26. The first chapter might help her decide if she wants to "save" the M.
Actually I have been coaching her in some ways to manage the situation using DR techniques. At this point, though, she's pretty confused and is not sure she wants to save it. And, to be honest, I'm pissed enough at my SIL that I'm not overly inclined to pressure her to save it. She actually told me this morning that she doesn't want to be the one to shoulder that responsiblity right now. I thought I would give it a few days and let her relax.
The other DR thing I've been doing with her is helping her to focus on all of the positives in her life and her GAL activities. She has a great job, is taking a class her work is paying for, and joined a co-ed softball league that she's having a lot of fun with.
SIL will probably be leaving this weekend, although he doesn't have his own place yet. DD26 and DGS1 (daring grandson #1) are coming to stay with me b/c she doesn't want to be there when he leaves. I will probaby share the book with her then. She's trying to arrange to have someone there while he leaves to make sure he doesn't take anything they haven't previously agreed on and to get his keys before he leaves. I'm going to take her shopping for new locks while she is here.
Right now he is trying to stick her with the mortgage. Unfortunately she doesn't have a lot of $$ for an atty, but I'm trying to help her any way I can to help protect her rights and preserve her credit. Most of their debt is in her name (his car loan, he's on her insurance, his car ins. is on her policy, their joint cell phone contract, etc.).
Ouch - that must hurt to see your D in that kind of pain.
Maybe rereading the DR portion on the role of friends/relatives will help you to be supportive without overfunctioning. I'll be thinking and praying for your family as well.
She's actually doing very well, under the circumstances. (Yes, this is the couple who was just married 9 short months ago.) I've been coaching her in some DR ways, but have not shared the book with her yet. She's not sure at this point that she wants to save the M. It's an hour by hour and day by day thing (we all know how this goes).