Quote: I'm curious why you haven't shared DR with DD26. The first chapter might help her decide if she wants to "save" the M.
Actually I have been coaching her in some ways to manage the situation using DR techniques. At this point, though, she's pretty confused and is not sure she wants to save it. And, to be honest, I'm pissed enough at my SIL that I'm not overly inclined to pressure her to save it. She actually told me this morning that she doesn't want to be the one to shoulder that responsiblity right now. I thought I would give it a few days and let her relax.
The other DR thing I've been doing with her is helping her to focus on all of the positives in her life and her GAL activities. She has a great job, is taking a class her work is paying for, and joined a co-ed softball league that she's having a lot of fun with.
SIL will probably be leaving this weekend, although he doesn't have his own place yet. DD26 and DGS1 (daring grandson #1) are coming to stay with me b/c she doesn't want to be there when he leaves. I will probaby share the book with her then. She's trying to arrange to have someone there while he leaves to make sure he doesn't take anything they haven't previously agreed on and to get his keys before he leaves. I'm going to take her shopping for new locks while she is here.
Right now he is trying to stick her with the mortgage. Unfortunately she doesn't have a lot of $$ for an atty, but I'm trying to help her any way I can to help protect her rights and preserve her credit. Most of their debt is in her name (his car loan, he's on her insurance, his car ins. is on her policy, their joint cell phone contract, etc.).
