I just want to say thanks to all the Martians and rationals who weighed in on this one. I have taken your advice and have dropped the subject completely, from the last interaction.
This weekend we are just hanging out and enjoying ourselves. It's colder than is typical, and rainy, so no golf or other outside activities are planned.
I'm just playing it loose. Last night we had an interesting conversation over dinner. I would like some Martian input here.
SO is still expressing a level of insecurity. I am not certain of the roots of this. He expressed this during R1 -- kept expecting me to find someone better and leave him. While this has no founding in the 5 years we've been together, I know it probably has some psychological grounding in his R with his mother.
It's funny because in one breath he expresses concern that I will find someone "better" and leave him, then in the next breath he expresses self-confidence.
Thoughts on this one, gang? I'm never quite sure what my response should be to these expressions. On one hand, I am very sympathetic to those feelings. On the other hand, considering the hell I have gone through and back in order to save this R, I get a little irritated with these expressions. Of course I don't express that irritation or frustration -- it's just something I sit on.
