Quote: When is time to take the duct tape off and let OUR feelings out? Does that time ever come? or do we live with unresolved issues and never speak our mind? eerrr, Ugh!
Just wanted to chime in w/ Nevanna (hi there & congrats!) that there is a time & a place to talk about your feelings. It has been my experience that when my feelings are "hot" and intense it is NOT the moment. I've learned that my feelings come & go like the tide, and that the longer I examine my own feelings (in my case thru meditation), the urgency of communicating them fades.
However, of course there are times when it's important to talk about your feelings. There are two things that I think are super important here: (1) Talk about your feelings when you feel "in control" over them, not the other way around and (2) when you are able to communicate them in a way that does not blame, project, accuse or in any way make matters worse. Your feelings are important, but you must know that YOU are responsible for your feelings - for the thoughts and underlying beliefs that are in YOUR head that precipitate your feelings.
I have strongly recommended reading "The Lost Art of Listening" to many here on the BB. It's really more about communication - both listening and talking and it was one of the most important books I ever read on my journey here.
