Mr MD - that was truly eye opening. WOW. Your explanation on how the mistrust should be handled was exactly what I needed, but have surpressed because I was made to think it was all me. Problems with me, problems I had. But they were just exempified by his reactions. I am going to print out your post and keep it handy for when I need a reminder that this is not all my fault (I am doing alot of self blame right now). Hunter - listen to this guy.