Hard nipples are not a sign that I am turned on. It may be that I am cold or that they are being rubbed. Am I the only one like this...or is this a sign that some women are turned on. Barney's statement below...he either really thinks this and doesn't believe me...or he is forever teasing me about it. I haven't been able to determine that one. Either way...log in on your response.

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, although I can't imagine walking past her with hard nipples showing through her shirt without commenting. I know we show interest in different ways.





Barney and I had several very good talks where he told me that he needed 2 things.

1) To be more verbal about what I needed and enjoyed during sex and

2) Oh, forgot my all my vitamins today...cabbage soup/cleanse...help me! Barney I forgot...ok, this is NOT because it isn't important...I'm sure most here will say that is the case...not so. I know a few things that help..but I forgot. I care about what you said, really. Oh, geesh!

Barney, please write it down here to keep for all time!

Barney said,

I don't really care what signal she gives. It's like Choc said, "It's the look in her eyes and felt in her kisses." I'm not the "do-it-my-way-or-else" guy that I come off as here on the BB.

Barney is right when he said he is not the do it all my way guy or else...as he comes across here.

I think I tend to remember when I did it right and when I was engaged...and Barney remembers and posts here when Iwasn't engaged. And we are both right! Put both views together and you get a more correct view.

So having both parties posting can be a real plus in that it tends to flush out reality rather than just my POV.

Barney said, "I've caught a lot of grief for afterward telling NG that the sex didn't really do it for me. I wasn't trying to say that she was lousy in bed, although that's what she heard, I was saying that she didn't have (or show me) that look in her eyes. I'm sure I could have said it better than I did, but it really was an attempt to stay engaged rather than withdraw from the game. I can't be a good guy by pretending that something is what it's not."

We've all said a lot of unkind things in frustration. Barney and I have talked through what he said about me and how "I did sex." Talked some about my body...and I'm about 75% over that. I'm still going to need more reassurance and words to get over it. I accept what he says, because I respect him and know him to be an honest man. Not perfect...but neither am I.

Nicegal