I decided to post here on Barney's thread just to perhaps show/say that it is not at all a big deal to me or that there was anything wrong with him posting on mine and not vice versa. He's the one who came here with the question to be answered and whatever he needed to do/ask to get it answered was fine with me.
Gel,
I agree with what you said here in your post. Yes, you said it very well.
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I hate to tell you this....but as you already know, you have no control over NG and her feelings. I completely understand what you are saying in that you want her to want sex, but you don't know that she doesn't, especially when she's telling you she does. People express their feelings/desires so very differently, some of us (like you and I and other HD's on this BB) are very open about expressing a desire for sex with their partners. Then of course there are others like NG (myself in the past) and my H who are very subtle...almost to the point of us missing their cues.
So...what's my point? Just because she doesn't show it the way you might or the way you want her to doesn't mean she doesn't want it, and doesn't want YOU.
It isn't hard for me to express things at all. I can. I can come right out with it. But I prefer the more mysterious/romantic ways about going about it. Why? It turns me on more and is more sexy.
But, alas, in the life of working full time and 2 children who keep me very busy...time for thinking about sex isn't too much! Kids are 12 and 8 yrs.
So "coreographed" times of when we are alone in a hotel is because I HAVE TIME to be with Barney and actually have time to feel sexy and think about sex!!! So scheduling lunch dates to talk about us/about sex/and about our relationship is essential. As well as scheduling sex! Sorry, that's just the part of life that I am in.
Gel, I'm going to have to post more times because I don't know how to do more than one quote per post.
But I think for the most part you expressed where I am at.
